So its inevitable that we go through these changes, nature is relentless & time waits for no one. but its not totally out of our control. what we can do is have a bigger say in how this changes come about. we can decide to be actively involved in the process and extend all the help we can give to make the transitions from one stage to another less traumatic.
Being in denial is the worst state to be in. we need to see it as it is, everything that is created has a life span. we need to recognise that basic truth and maximise each stage as it comes. and whatever we do, we need to respect the age.
When my kids were growing up i always reminded them to be as realistic as possible. my favourite saying was, 'dont expect a dog to meow or a cat to bark, we are all true to our creation but if, and its a big if, u find one who does than consider it a bonus'. yup, looking back i was a party pooper alright lol but that was just the way i was. fairy tales were fine for entertainment but in the final analysis, life was still life. i wanted them to be realistically hopeful.. ridiculous expectations would only bring about devastating disappointment.
Realistically hopeful. and being realistic must not to be confused with pessimism. for the realist, theres always HOPE :)
Now i'm at the point in my life that i really need to call it as it is. inside, i'm still that wide-eyed, dreamy person out to discover the world, but the fact remains that i've hit middle-age and half my life has already passed me by. And that although the world is still my oyster, my approach must be tailored to suit my current needs.
Growing old sucks, i know but we can minimize the damage and still have fun if we take stock of where we are and strategize realistically. denying the existence of that wrinkle is not going to take it away hehehe.
OK I'm past 50 but i still can be the best that i can be in my 50s ;-))
p.s. Case in point, when u hit middle-age, you are somehow not as sharp as you were... my daughter just reminded me that today's thursday not friday, referring to my FB update. Its NOT friday? really? sheeesh, and i was all geared up to chilling out tomorrow LOL.
Need to do more quizzes i guess.... and read more Quranic verses to keep the synapses thriving ;)